You’ve stayed up all night together, argued together, played backgammon together, hit the beach together, cried together, and if the truth be told, you’ve probably even slept in the same bed together- on more than one occasion. So one thing is beyond dispute here- you were made for each other and yes, you love each other very, very much. So now it’s time for your best friend, the one who will never leave your side, to be asked that big question. You gather up all your courage and let it out: “Listen bro, would you do me the honour of being my Best Man?” Stunned silence ensues as you watch your mate reel as if he’d been thumped on the pip by a sledge-hammer. It’s not really the response you were looking for.
So chaps, if you’re asked to be the Best Man, here’s Volume 1 of how you go about being the Ultimate Best Man Ever.
- Organise the Bachelor Party. Men are men and that means we often aren’t too adept at organising this so whatever you do, don’t delay on this. Get hold of the male crew and put together a killer Bachelor’s. This is very important as you’ll be measured on its success or failure. It’s the biggest bonding session of your soon-to-be-married mate’s life, so don’t let him down.
- Keep all of the other groomsmen in check. Make sure that they know what they’re wearing at the wedding, give them any dates and times of fittings and make absolutely certain that each of them know what’s expected of them in the lead up to the wedding and on wedding day.
- It’s the small things that count. He probably won’t show it, but your mate the dashing groom is under some serious stress as the wedding He’ll act cool and calm on the outside,but under the surface he’s a bit of a mess. He’s thinking about whether or not he’ll remember his vows,what to put in his speech, what his bride will look like, what he’s going to call his new in-laws and so on. So offer to collect the rings, pick up his granny, delegate drivers, fill the honeymoon car with petrol, make sure his undies don’t have holes in them. Be his second set of ears, eyes and hands.
- Be a rock. On wedding day,get him to the wedding venue on time. And get him there in a good state of mind. Check that all the groomsmen have their button-holes and know where to stand. Be jovial, chat to guests as they arrive to take the pressure off him, joke with him, be cool- he needs the reassurance that you are there next to him now more than ever before.
- Pay the minister. Make sure you have money to pay the minister for this is not the time to be passing a hat around to start a collection fund, so arrive ready and organised!
- Brief in the speeches. Make sure everyone knows who is making a speech and when. Give each person a specific duration to speak I’ve had a wedding or two when the speeches have gone on for over an hour. Nobody likes speeches that run for too long, so make sure the speeches are short, sweet, to the point, yet powerful and emotional.
- Make the Matron of Honour feel like a million. Pull her chair out for her, dance with her during the opening formal dance. Be a true gentleman. She’ll love you for it.
- Make a mature speech. Do not stuff this up. Give your toast to the bride and groom (or to the bridesmaids) some real If you deliver a good speech or toast, guests won’t stop complimenting you all evening. Mess it up and you’ll draw stares from people that will make it a long night for you.
- Don’t forget the Do. Not. Forget. The Rings.
- Enjoy the wedding!